Saturday, February 19, 2011

Let's talk about butt sex.







For some reason I have been reluctant to talk about butt sex.(Male or female butt sex)
So I gathered up some images in hopes to learn more and not be so hesitant about it.

Have I had butt sex before? Yes. (maybe only about 4-5 times) ? It's not a thing that really comes up much at all. As of lately I've found myself exploring that region more and liking it.
Did I enjoy it when we as a couple did it? Yes and no ......didn't care for some of the after effects ......( ie )the smell. And the embarrasment kind of took over the enjoyment part. The feeling was pretty incredibly different and exciting though. But like I said the smell kind of made me feel self concious and we just have put it on the back burner. I believe it was a turn off for hubby also, as he has not persued it much.

When we have tried, I think we were just doing it spontaneously and didn't go about it the right way.
I think enemas definitely need to be planned out in advance and just being a bit more prepared would probably enhance the whole situation a whole lot more. Plus communication has to definitely be involved.

I have fantasies of being double penatrated. I have basically done that in my own masterbation time.

I tend to do more ass play by myself. I think because at this time just feel more comfortable if something isn't quite right. I do enjoy it and would like to make it become more a part of our sexual play.

I have a very tiny glass dildo that we've used basically as a butt plug and it really doesn't do much and it slips out. I want to learn about butt plugs and use them also in our play. Everytime we go to get one, I can't make up my mind as to which one to buy. I want one that is easily kept clean with medical grade materials (like my Lelo) and not sure what size to get. I don't want a small one, I know that. Is medium going to do what I want it to and is large going to be to big?

I think there is also an interest on hubbies behalf on his side of the game. Not in the gay sense, of course. But just finding a new realm to find out about. I would like to be a part of trying something of that nature on him (prostrate message) or whatever comes about.

I want to hear your experiences and things you could share with me to help me feel not so shy when it comes to this subject.

6 comments:

marquisdgore said...

Boy, you're asking for a lot of info in one comment.
I'll just give some basics and let others elaborate on finer points.

#1 - Personal hygiene. If you know in advance you're going to do it a little later, go to the bathroom and evacuate your bowels, so you can "Make Room for Daddy" and avoid any major obstacles. Not 100% effective obviously. Enemas work fine if you have the time, but are uncomfortable at times.

#2-Condom. Saves clean up time afterwards for everybody, slip it off and continue elsewhere, no problem.

#3-LUBE, LUBE, LUBE.Huge variety of products there. My personal favorites are also flavored because. . . .

#4-Rimming. Not everyone will like doing this for many reasons, but the recipient will love having it done to them. Also provides saliva for lubrication - not the best lube but usable. My personal favorite, giving and receiving.

#5-Insertion. Take your time about this, even with lube, an ass needs to relax and stretch to accomodate. Best position is female dominant, letting her control insertion at her own pace. I think ass plugs are a waste of money and time, unless they vibrate.:)

#6-Position. That you have to work out for yourselves which is best. Face to face, sideways or spoon, and four on the floor. My personal favorite is face to face, knees on shoulders. Allows for max penetration, eye contact and kissing. Might be a little uncomfortable for you though. I don't know how flexible you are.

I was totally against any kind of ass play until my fourth woman taught me all there was to know. Since then it's always been mandatory (giving and receiving) or I moved on. Married now 35 years to the best, the only virgin I ever had.

Jim said...

My first experience was when I was a teenager. A guy I worked for, he was in his 40's, seduced me. This went on for three years. He was gentle and took his time with plenty of lube.

This was before the fear of AIDs.

The second time was with my second wife. She enjoyed using a dildo on me. Once again, lube was a key. What also help was allowing me to initiate the insertion into my anus by me slowing moving my hips against the dildo allowing me to relax as it entered into me.

We eventually got a strap on dildo that she like to use on me. Once it was fully inserted, then she took over the movement of the dildo in and out of me.

I never have been able to be the giver in anal sex, only the receiver. For your husband it may be enjoyable if he is willing.

As for being gay? That is up to the individual. I consider myself bi-sexual. My second wife knew I was and enjoy that part of me.

It is depending on individual hangups and acceptance.

Jim said...

Also, enemas do help. I had an enema bag I would use in the shower. Much better that getting a Fleece enema.

Bob said...

To the Marquisdgore: Right on, pal. Now the real question. You can dish it out but can you take it? Man up, dude and let that fourth or fifth wife give it to you in the ass . . . on behalf of your EX wives... . they'd love the photos. . . this I'm sure of.

CarynSKA said...

I don't know if there's anything I can say here that hasn't already been said. I think I would just emphasize that you should be as relaxed as possible. A glass of wine doesn't hurt for me.
Just go slow, relax and enjoy yourselves!

La Roo said...

marquisdgore- Thanks for the advice, but really all I was asking for was people to share their experiences. I got the logistics I just hadn't played that way very much.

Jim-Thanks for sharing. Sounds like you've come a long way. That must have been quite an eye opening experience when you were a teenager. I'm not sure to say I'm sorry or was that a positive thing in your life?

Bob-I don't even know what to say Bob. ;)

CarynSKA - thanks, very sweet of you. It's a delicate subject for me and to know I'm not alone helps. Do you have a butt plug. If so, do you mind me asking what kind?