What do you do when you don't know what ground you are standing on?
As husband and wife we have grown abundantly together. I feel proud and confidant in the choices we've made. Not all have come easy or in some profound way. We have come into our own and both feel comfortable on many levels. I look around and see couples that have no clue what their other half thinks or believes. They just live and there is nothing deeper than the there and now. Pretty sad.
In the past several years our sexuality has really bloomed. The sharing and comfort levels have reached a new high. Self worth and awareness play a huge part. In saying that, of course there are things we are still learning and a unsure of. Thoughts and actions can be left as they are or can be acted on, but only if there is certainty.
When you love someone like we love each other, there is a trust and sometimes unspoken words that lead us in one direction or another. Sometimes that's good and other times that has hindered our growth.
One issue that I am getting to is.....playing around with other people. Is it ok to touch another human body (other than your partner) or be touched? It seems like an easy "yes". Is it? Will that hurt your partner or could someone become deeper involved than planned? In my mind we are at the level where we are pretty comfortable with our sexuality, in realizing it is an act that produces pleasure. The love making, is the life we have made for ourselves and the bond of caring that comes with it. But if it came down to it, could we separate it. I'm sure this has come up with many(open minded) people as their relationships grow. It is a just new realm to share like this and feels a little vulnerable.
I've fantasized on some level about being with other people, including my love of course. Just being wild and letting loose on others while doing the same to each other. I know on a regular everyday basis this just doesn't happen and I know pretty much general society looks down on this. I've never liked general societies thoughts anyway. I think that the majority of people don't explore sex or enjoy it. It is easier for them to criticize and condemn. This situation is something that could be real in certain circumstances, like at Desire. Is it ok to feel that? If it really came down to it, would it feel right? My hubby can't even tell me if he is ok with it. Are we trying to protect each other? Or is this a sign of uncertainty telling us not to let ourselves go there?
Do those fantasies just stay fantasies?